Creating your reality is one of the most empowering things you can do. You can look at a situation and see the good or you can look at the same situation and choose to see the bad. Often, your view of what’s happening is filtered through the lens of your thoughts. Positive thoughts create more abundance. If you want better relationships, to be more successful in your career or to find a level of happiness that brings you peace and comfort, then focusing on what is right, on what is positive in your life, is a good start. Negative thoughts, on the other hand, contribute to feelings of dissatisfaction, disappointment and defeat. You think the worst – and then it happens. Learning how to change your negative thoughts can be the difference between living a life filled with frustration and one filled with confidence
Being on a journey with cancer; being in and out of remission 3 times, undergoing 3 huge surgeries, two lots of radiation, loosing an ear canal and experiencing what it feels like for my organs to start shutting down, and to be living not really knowing what could happen in the future ( although I believe and know within myself I am going to be ok 🙂 people often ask me “How is it that you stay so positive?”
Being on this planet as humans we are faced with all sorts of battles in our lifetime that can just straight up SUCK! A lot of you may hear my story and think “I can’t imagine going through that,” but I hear of other’s stories and I think the same about them! We all have different battles and barriers of our own and they all effect us differently. No matter what the battle is, no matter how big or how small the situation is, we can change our outlook on the situation with the power of positive thinking.
I am going to let you in on a little secret: staying positive and constructive through tough times can lead you to a wonderful and happy life!
In my case I found a stage when I had to take responsibility for myself and not play the role of a victim. Through this tough time I knew that if I was a victim, I would only prolong my suffering and put people off who may have been able to help me. For me, letting go of being the victim helped to free me from resentment and bitterness which I knew would prevent me from moving forward. Taking control of my life and stepping down from my ‘victim’ title has lead me to where I am today- winning with my battle against cancer, starting my dream business, and most importantly loving life in a whole new light!
Yes there have been times when I have felt sorry for my body and all it has been through. Yes there have been times when I have felt frustrated, but in all honesty, this negative trauma that I have had to face has changed my life in more positive ways than you can imagine, and to be able to recognise that and see that is oh so wonderful!
Here are my top 5 tips to a positive outlook that I use in my fight against cancer and any other barriers I come up against. These tips will help with all aspects of your life; whether it’s your heart that has just been broken, a work situation, depression, anxiety, health, money or fighting cancer like me! 🙂
1: BE GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE GOOD THINGS IN YOUR LIFE
When you find yourself in a negative state, take a moment to remember all the good things in your life. Remember the things that make you happy. The best way to harness the positive power of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal or list, where you actively write down exactly what you’re grateful for each day. This will help you to take a step back and see there are SO many good things in your life. It may sound a little cheesy but is more powerful than you think, I used to write down a list when I was going through the hardest part of my battle and it reminded me of all the amazing things I am fighting for. 🙂
2: EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS TEMPORARY; LIVE IN THE MOMENT
Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. After darkness there is always light – you are reminded of this every morning, but still you often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever.
So if things are good right now, enjoy it! It won’t last forever. If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either. Just because life isn’t easy at the moment, doesn’t mean you can’t laugh. Just because something is bothering you, doesn’t mean you can’t smile. Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending. You get a second chance every second. You just have to take it and make the best of it 🙂
3: LET GO OF GRUDGES
This is something that I have found has been the hardest for most people, but when you do its like a whole weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Forgiving and forgetting is necessary for your own happiness, as holding a grudge means you’re also holding onto resentment, anger, hurt and other negative emotions that are standing in the way of your own happiness. Only you will suffer if you hold a grudge. Letting go frees you from negativity and allows more space for positive emotions to fill in. Be the light.
4: LOVE YOURSELF; DONT COMPARE YOURSELVES TO OTHERS
Your life is unique, so don’t measure your own worth by comparing yourself to those around you. Even regarding yourself as better than your peers is detrimental to your happiness, as you’re fostering judgmental feelings and an unhealthy sense of superiority. Measure your own success based on your progress alone, not that of others. Tell yourselves affirmations everyday for example “I love the person I have become”, and then be that person.
5: THE BEST THING IS TO KEEP GOING
Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. For me it was as though my whole world was over and for a moment there I felt I was going to be stuck in this rut forever, but I didn’t and you won’t either. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.
Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher. Find the strength to laugh every day. Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful. Find it in your heart to make others smile too. Don’t stress over things you can’t change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. And even if you fall short, keep going. Keep growing.
When I wake up every morning this is how I like to see my day and you can do the same.
- Think positively.
- Eat healthy.
- Exercise today.
- Worry less.
- Work hard.
- Laugh often.
- Sleep well.
You are all amazing, and you all have the ability to change your way of thinking on any given situation. I wish you all nothing but a life of positivity and happiness and to remember you are all worth it!
Love and Light